Mental Health, Stigma and Blame in the BDSM Community

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Part 1:

The Trouble With Safewords:

Beyond Basic Safewords:

In-Scene Communication:

101: Limits, Boundaries and Safewords:


This is Part 2.

Oh boy ya'll, this is going to be a heavy one. Content warning for discussion of: manipulation tactics, condom use, sex, abuse of authority, power dynamics and community leaders. Please take care of yourself if you choose to watch this video.

Today's discussion revolves around a particular happening on Fetlife. Namely, there was a group of 2, then 3 then 4 (maybe more) people who can forward to share their experiences about a particular individual they had all interacted with. Normally, stories of abuse in the world of kink revolve around issues in a scene: ignored safewords for example. This went beyond that, into the nature of the relationships themselves.

But today I want to talk not just about this persons actions, or what they did. But the reaction our community had, the excuses, the minimization. And what I think of these reactions, and how we can do better to keep people safe. In particular I want to focus on the shift of blame onto mental health, discussing the ableism issues that surround such topics, and what standards as a community we ought to have when it comes to mental health.


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